BIG announcement

Hey guys and gals,

I have a big announcement to make...

I LAUNCHED A NEW SITE TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Right now AdilAmarsi.com is live and running. I am getting good steady amounts of people opting in and it is awesome!!!!

I am doing a free weekly newsletter that has exclusive information from the experts in EVERY field possible,
Self-help
Internet marketing
Relationships
raising kids happy and healthy
and so much more.

Make sure you come on round to the new site and get all the awesome content!

Click here to visit and join us!

P.S. This is were I will be completely unearthed and you will see my every day sorta life and the lessons I learn :).

Adil

The tale of two fears....

Hey guys,

Just a quick post because I have been super busy preparing the new site, I am gonna include every type of thing I can on there so you guys can have a real frontal view of my life....

Okay so the tale of two fears...

As we know fear is seen as a bad thing,

but what if I was to tell you it wasn't.

You see we are all born with only 2 fears the others are learned the 2 fears are, fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. The other fears are all learned and not really real.

You remember the age old saying, FEAR is.

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

So this should mean you shouldn't really fear anything but in a fear based society it's kinda difficult.

Okay so this Tale of two fears is something I learned from a movie that was the worst ending for a Saga but the ending was redone, thankfully, that's right, rocky 5.

Rocky is speaking to Tommy Gunn and asks him,

"Yo Tommy, who's ya best friend?"

Tommy tries to say it's some guy in Oklahoma, where he's from.

Rocky replies, "No it's not your best friend is Fr

eddie Fear... You see when you fight you got fear in you, that fear can do 2 things to you, either show your burning desire or burn you up."

Now I added something else here.

Your fear will do 1 of 2 things to you, either it will set you on fire with passion and desire and have the world come see you burn your passion, or it will kill you slowly inside until you burnout and burn up.

I hope you guys embrace your fear because what you scared of most is usually the path you are meant to go down.

Later Days!

Adil.

P.S. I will send you links to the new site soon :)

Time to learn from Millionaire Business People!

Hey all I got this email from Jeff Mills. Pretty awesome

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Listening....Why is it important..

Hey all,

Glad you liked the last post.

This is a post that a good friend of mine named Jill gave me an idea to write about...

Listening, and why it is important.

This is a subject that took me a while to learn because I am a natural blue, I don't think my words through they just come out. So it took me a while to listen, now I am not a great listener by my own standards but I am improving so yay there.

Okay so why is listening important?

Before we get into it let's discuss what listening is.
Listening is a skill that is not taught and if it is taught its taught very daftly.

I remember being taught this skill....Not the most fun I've had because all that kept happening was me being told, "dude shut up and listen"....
Now how on earth is that any fun to anyone??????

Okay so listening is taking in information through the ears, hearing the message, clarifying said message, relaying a response to this message or adding to it, which in turn leads into good conversation.

So why is this important?

Besides the VERY obviousness that listening = friendship, knowledge and lovingness from everyone.

It is good for relationships, business, etc.

Honestly speaking I have completely missed it clearly when a girl is telling me she likes me. She could be hinting this and because I wasn't able to listen had to just go by gut instinct. This is not a fun way to go because your Ego will start telling you not to because it thinks she is going to kill you.

Anyway it works in business as well because your business prospect could be telling you what there need is or there pain, by understanding this you can then go out and help them create a product that could help other people like them.

I know I haven't taught the "how to listen" part in this blog and that is because I honestly don't know how I learned, I just studied being quiet, not jumping from my first thought, hearing the person, processing what they said and making an answer, rather then waiting for them to stop talking so I could start.

Hope this helps and have fun listening,

Later days!

Adil

Afformations - No not a typo

Hey guys,

In my last post I told you guys about something called Afformations. Now like I promised here's what an afformation is and how to get it to work for you. But before we begin permit me to remind you what an Affirmation is: Something declared to be true, a positive or negative statement or judgment. But we like to keep it a strictly positive experience. So no, "I suck" more like, "Yay I am feeling awesome!"

Afformations is about questioning yourself rather then affirming.

E.G. "I am a millionaire" (affirmation)
To
"Why do I have x amount of millions in my account?" (afformation)

So this is pretty powerful because if you have ever heard of this statement before, you will know why:
Statement: "The Quality of Questions determine the Quality of your Life".

If you ask a powerful question such as,

• Why am I a millionaire?
• Why am I beautiful?
• How did I achieve Financial freedom?
• Why am I so energetic?
• Why do I have so much fun?

No matter what you ask, positive or negative your brain will give you an answer.
If its,
"Hey Why do I suck so much?" or "Why can't I do nothing right?"

Your brain will answer,

"Because you suck."
"You have no skill's here"
etc.

So use Afformations if you a stubborn person like I am and start seeing things happen.

By the way just for you marketing people who want help online and stuff.
Tellman Knudson is giving you a $4000 free course at the moment.
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Right I'll speak to you soon,

Later days!

Adil

Cancel CANCEL!

Hey guys,

Thanks to those who responded, my friend George is happy about the help you guys gave :).

Just gotta use all I learned and condense it down for him.

Anyway here's today's awesomely awesome post.....

Okay I was listening to the Silva Life System's course and I have only began it because it seems cool. There was one technique that was really cool, it's called, "Canceling".
Probably isn't called that but I call it that :).

so what is this technique?

It pretty much helps you out with helping to program yourself for successful habits.
When ever you feel a negative thought come into your head or a negative question or statement, just say "Cancel cancel", then replace it with something, either an incantation, an affirmation or an afformation (will blog about this soon promise!).

Example would be,

"You really can't make money can you, you know why? Cos you SUCK!"

"CANCEL CANCEL! [this is an incantation btw] Everyday and EVERYWAY I am getting healthier, wealthier and happier." Thing is with incantations you just don't say them, you act them out, meaning you gotta start walking and say this, you have to have a smile on your face, you have to act a little silly to make yourself smile. JUST GO FOR IT!

Will be back with more,

Later Days,

Adil

A few new updates....

Hey all,

I have some good news and some "in need of help" news.

First and foremost, I have a new blog up soon. I will send all of you lovely lovely people invites and you can join my monthly newsletter which is pretty much a magazine of sorts with lots of information covering many area's.

Okay next up is this help i need for you all.

My buddy, whom will remain anonymous for obvious reasons, is going through a hard time in there life. Besides the few friends who support them in there ventures and there aspirations, those who don't have now started really tearing them down, as in its pretty painful to watch. They too, like myself, live at home for the moment, there mother had supported them throughout but has recently became really irritable, I know I met her and she isn't the nice lady she once was and the stuff seems to bother her and takes it out on my friend.

Now The advice needed here, because as much as I try to help them, they seem to be stuck in this loop of fighting for there dreams and being told there worthless by there family members, yes all of them, yeah I know it sucks. Could you guys help out?

Thanks again, please write your comments or just email me personally.

Best wishes,

Adil

Authenticate it Damn It!

Hey guys,

I watched a cool video the other night, now I went back and checked it out and my comment was moved from number 30 to 31....This isn't relevant but its messed up my awesomely funny weird moment. I posted it and I got number 30, on July 30th 2009 and my goal was deadlined for my birthday, September 30th....freaky huh. Get's crazier cos the time was 11:18:47 pm so 13 more seconds then 3 30s woop.

Okay on to the chocolaty goodness and if you can't have chocolate think of pizza and if you don't like pizza, you are just alien to me =)

On this awesomely awesome video I watched 2nights ago. My buddy and a guy I formerly interviewed, Mr. Bruce Muzik, has recently moved to his beach house in the Caribbean. He shared how he did it.

And it comes down to this...and you can use my blog as a breeding ground for this....

Make an Authenticated promise to everyone. Really get specific. Like tell the whole world what your promise is, when you want it by, this way it creates social pressure and bam you have to do it or face losing face with people....

Then all you have to do is make sure you lay out how you wanna do it, find the first "domino" to knock over so the others fall in place to make the mosaic that is your life.

Best wishes,

Adil.

P.S. Everyone of you that bought the 11 forgotten laws, Rocks and I hope you enjoyed my extra bonuses.

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The 11 forgotten laws....

Hey Party people,

How are you all today?

Okay this is gonna be a very odd blog because I can't explain these laws yet but I know what they are, if that makes sense?

Before we begin I will tell you it was Bob Proctor who made this program and I will include a link to the site, should you wish to buy but there is something even cooler which you will see in the P.S. Of this post.

Okay so lets begin the 11 laws.

1) Law of Thinking

2) Law of Supply

3) Law of Attraction

4) Law of Recieving

5) Law of Increase

6) Law of Compensation

7) Law of Non resistance

8) Law of Forgiveness

9) Law of Sarcrifice

10) Law of Obedience

11) Law of Success

I'm going through this program as we speak and I'm only on Law number 1, I'm trying out a new strategy, listen to one CD so much that it drives me nuts or I know it well enough.... Good plan yay(!) :).

Anyway from the guy who recommended this to me, sorry I forgot how to spell your name, and you won't let me nickname you....

He has started applying these laws, and he's been getting some kick ass results.

I know this is like a really none cool post but I promise once I learn more of the laws I will write them up for you in an awesome way :).

The course is found here:

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Best wishes,

Adil

P.S. (Yay for P.S.'s) This is what you get with this program from the site...

All 11 laws....

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Bonus #2: Laura Silva's Little-known secrets to "manifest like a millionaire" done at T.Harv Eker's $5000 "Master your mind"

Bonus #3: Silva's centering exercise... This I've done through the Silva life systems course, it's pretty awesome, puts your mind at an "Alpha" wave state and makes you feel super peaceful.

Bonus # 4: FinerMinds premium membership.

Those are the bonuses you get but to increase the bonuses

I've prepared a super bonuses just for you guys reading this.

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The Science of Being Well - By Wallace D. Wattles

The Science of Getting Rich (this version is different I found just as good if not better) - By Wallace D. Wattles, Compiled by Tony Mase.

Walking - by Henry David Thoreau

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Later Days

The distance between success and Failure!

Hey guys

I was watching a random Tony Robbins video on youtube, because he is someone who is like MEGA awesome...

Anyway this is during a time while I feel super uncertain about things because I just feel really burntout. Now here's what Tony said,

"It takes an Millimeter to change everything. If you hit a golf ball a millimeter to the side it either lands in the sand dune, the water or the green, because it doesn't look like much but it arcs."

So remember if you feel like your at a loss of certainty, shift 1 millimeter and see how it feels.

Best wishes,

Adil

"Arrogance is putting people around you down to make yourself feel and look good, this never lasts long, but Confidence is bringing up those around you by making them look good and its reciprocated and lasts forever" - Adil A. Amarsi

Emersion

Hey guys,

I got an insane story for you guys.

As many of you know I took up studying, in super super super deep depths how the mind of people works and so on and so forth. Now I know one of the best ways to get a good influence on people to educate them is based on emersion, this just means me, you and a few other people all doing the same activity together so it becomes stronger to you.

Now this is the weird thing I noticed recently, for those who have an Xbox 360 or PC version of this game or who have kids who have this game I got totally emersed in it. The game is called "Gears of War". How I got so emersed in it is scary because at one point, after reading a bit of the Gears novel, I started feeling like how some of the characters would feel.

Such as Marcus Fenix (pictured)

He is the game's main character and so on. Anyway his story develops through the first game making the player very curious about him.

The game, btw, is based in an alternate world named Sera, which is like Earth but destroyed because of greed and wars.

Marcus is known in the game as a war hero who is in Prison for abandoning his post to try to save his dad, etc.

Anyway the next Character is Domanic Santiago, life long friend of Marcus Fenix and a guy who is looking for his wife.

Ths is where the emersion begins, ESPECIALLY in gears of war 2. From the get go you are thrown in like you yourself are a Gear.

I think its like act 3 (mission 3) of the first chapter. And you get this cut scene....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0Vh0Qvbm0Y

After watching this cut scene you feel emersed to just play the game....

I questioned why this was happening and the answer was emersion. Not only did the game make things enjoyable and a way to vent out some level of stress. You have this combination of melding that feeling into your psychology, which is really brilliant because it's seldom happens in games, usually movies or books. The main aim of this, and I am not sure they even knew this effect, was to get you to love the game and merchandise such as hats, bags, beanies, lighters, etc....

It works because on a random guess they've probably shipped millions of dollars in merchandise away from the game alone. Not to mention the fact anytime this game launches, "Gears 1 and Gears 2", The local game shops always have a midnight launch, which I might add nearly sells the entire stock in that time. In some cases, as with Leicester Gamestation, they sold out of there stock of Call of Duty 4 (I only know this because I was there), about 12 times within the first 5 weeks of the game being released..... What's scary is we moved more products of this then any other store.... now back to the lesson...

If you want people to be nicer, more attracted, or just for to be the life of a party, emerse everyone in "your world", get them to see how great it is.

Sorry this post is so everywhere, I've yet to sleep... but please study the video and send me your response in the comments section.

Thanks

Have an awesomely awesome day,

Later days,

Adil

How to keep an audience focused and alert...

Hey guys,

This is just something I thought to write about because I went to a recent seminar and it was my first time ever I saw a few people fall asleep, others fidget and some just not care for what the speaker was saying. Which is stupid because this guy had good content. THOUGH admittedly I did feel a little bit bored.

So I thought to do this blog on how to keep an audience going on your message and have them alert, captivated and ready to love you!

Okay so straight in to one of the best ways I know to keep an audiences attention.

Is have them do something with you, like Tony Robbins has the yes clap. And Jerry Clark has the go clap.
Some other people just get everyone to stretch out. My friend, Kalpesh Patel ALWAYS had us give the people near us a massage, this woke us all up and made us laugh. My other friend Mark Anastasi had us (the crowd) repeat powerful affirmations such as, "I'm a millionaire". This is excellent because it creates high energy.

A few other things that work are ask questions, change the volume of your voice, coming out of that monotone and get into something more fun. Tell a few jokes, walk into the crowd and ask questions.

A few people whom I know who do this so well are Jennie Armato, Sean Roach, Russell Brand and a few other entertainers/speakers. If you do this it builds such a quick bond because your not so away from them your joining in, you're asking them questions, and getting to know them.

When you give value in a fun manner, it is kept better in the minds of people and the crowd will start accociating you with the word fun, which is what you want because when you are fun and have what they want that equals to you having constant customers and a lot more friends.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes,

Adil

An amazing experience....

Hey guys,

Hope you all had an amazing weekend.

First and foremost thank you to the people who emailed in, Louise Champion and Prabs thank you both for the long questions, I will answer them all asap :), promise.

Okay so I had yet another amazing experience.

To share something personal and in no way shape or form do I want any of you reading this to feel bad for me or something =D. But my doctor told me I might have so much stress it's messing up my sleep, so you stressy people PAY SUPER ATTENTION HERE!

So the amazing experience was while I was feeling low, tired, bored, which all by the way lead to the dark side...known as depression. Though these are miles away from depression following that path eventually leads you there.

Here's what I had happen to me, without realizing it, I started sitting in my "power and confident" posture, and started to breathe if everything was okay. And bam like a bolt of lightening I'm back to being the energetic maniac :).

This is based on something I learned from Tony Robbins a year ago but never actually applied because I hadn't had to. So it helped now so yay.

To get into your power and confidence posture do the following:

1) Close your eyes and visualize yourself in your peak condition, when you feel great, full of life, power, joy and confidence. You're doing what you do best at the best level possible.

2) Breathe DEEP for 20 seconds. Hold in for 6 seconds, release SLOWLY until you are back to normal and repeat (Thank you Craig Goldblatt)

3) Get up and move, have a shower, work out, but get moving, when you move your body starts to sense your doing well and pumps more endorphin around your body.

Have an awesomely awesome day!

Adil

p.s. Are you guys still not following me on twitter?
Click here to follow woo XD

I wanna hear from you....

Hey guys,

Just a quick post, because its 9:04 am and I have just finished up some work so I am relaxing, so I thought to post.

Okay here's the deal,

I want you guys to help me out by telling me exactly what you want me to blog about....No I'm serious. Not to say I know everything but If you have something you want me to blog about tell me, and I will either blog about it, or send a message to you telling you, "I have no idea what this subject is about and will blog on it later."

Anyway Let me know.

Later days,

Adil

P.S. Thank you Adam for your awesome advice on more ways to increase weight....Hard Gainers ROCK!

Okay I'm a bit peeved!

Guys this is a quick blog,

I don't feel like writing much because I am peeved at my internet provider for NOT telling me the first 10 days = SLOW, UNRELIABLE CONNECTION!

Thank you BT!

Which means No video because It won't upload so I decided to write it out....yay :).... I am going to leave you with a bit of a story of my random personal journey to regain my athleticism and build more muscle....

As a few already know I class under the category of, "HARD GAINER" which means no matter what I do I can hardly put on weight.

So I went on good ol' google in search of an answer that would best help me out. I found a site, by the way this was 2 days or so ago.... Bought the product and started immediately.

Here's my review after just 2 or so days....

The product is good, it's helped me build a bit more muscle, and you can see it, I checked my weight, its at a good level and I feel slightly more energetic. I recommend this to anyone who is up for weight loss and muscle gain, and just to feel great.

Links are at the bottom of this post.

Comment please :)

Adil!

Link for super awesome muscle thing!
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The 3 big Secrets to getting what you want in life and people

Yes It's a bit of a wordy title I know, but it is the lessons I have learned in dealing with life and dealing with people.

Anyway let's begin.

1) In order to have you must be.

This is one I learned from Matt Morris who is the founder, president and CEO of Success University. Pretty much what he taught me through his CD was this secret.

People often think in order to be something you must have something. IF you want to be happy, you have to have something for it, E.g. A new car, nice house, lots of money, etc.

Or if you want to be a millionaire, you have to do all these things and then you will be one.

THE TRUTH!

Is that you must BE before you have.

"What do you mean, Adil?"

Simply put, if you want to be a millionaire, first think like a millionaire, if you want to have this soul mate, think of already knowing and being with them, etc.

Everything that happens in life is a reaction to what your inner world is. Remember wealth doesn't happen to you, but you happen to wealth. Meaning your thoughts and inner dialogue creates your world.

2) Take complete Responsibility

This is one that is hardly spoke about or taught else where.
Taking 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING. Meaning if you just got laid off or fired or downsized, its not the company's fault, it's yours, because you chose to work there, you didn't upgrade your skill set, etc.

This sounds negative but it really isn't, when you take control of responsibility, your ability to respond, you will see you can control your life much easier.

This isn't an easy thing to do. Trust me. it takes a lot of self-discipline to do. Another example to this is when you break up with someone, take responsibility, if you argue, take responsibility.

REMEMBER your view, is just your view, take responsibility of it, if the other person doesn't take responsibility for there actions, you shouldn't take there's to. Just respond with an apology and leave it at that, the other person will soon be okay with you.

In work or lifestyle, take responsibility that you being in debt, or not where you are. IS the price you paid for being lazy and un-responsible. I am not telling you to blame yourself, just take responsibility in an empowering manner, I am guilty of not taking responsibility but I learn and so does everyone else.

3) Be fun

I know I have gone on about this before but this is from every area of life.

If you are the fun person, people will gravitate toward you. Really imagine this one, who would you rather hang out with, the fun person or the dull one?

Yeah its usually the fun person you would want to hang out with.

I know this secret isn't explained completely, because it is pretty obvious :).

Anyway guys, I know I said I would do a video as well, but my computer is being odd. So the video will be up soon.

For those who know, I am doing my health challenge, started this morning, I did 30 push ups, 30 sit ups and 30 squats, I did a mile long power walk. This afternoon me and a friend walked about 5 or so miles, was pretty awesome.

Speak to you tomorrow!

Adil

That "Ah Ha" Moment!

Alright, instead of giving the 3 big secrets I said I would, I wanted to post this first, I will give the 3 big secrets away tomorrow, sorry about this but this was a teeny bit more in my head.

This is a short post.

Okay so as the title states, we have all had this special "Ah Ha!" Moment!

But what if I was to tell you, you could have these moments more often in your own life?

You can create them yourself, well in a way you already do but I mean more on purpose and more meaningful ones. Rather then ones where it's every so often or seen as coincidence?
Would you like to?

I would imagine so, because those moments are awesome!

What inspired me to write this over the 3 secrets to getting practically everything in life was simply I had this experience.

For those that do or don't know I am a Tony Robbins student, I think he is amazing and has a big heart and is full of energy and passion. I did his personal power 7 day course on September 23rd 2008, A week before my birthday. I never looked at it again until yesterday, 21st July 2009 (Holy crap can you believe it?). Anyway I looked at it and read some of the goals I placed in, Now some of the immediate 1 year goals did seem a bit far off, I do feel close to achieving them but the "Ah Ha" moment I got was when I looked at a 3 year goal I have, now at the time I had no idea how I would achieve it, but over the course of the last few months I have acquired the skill set to achieve that goal.

So how do you get "Ah Ha" moments all the time and make them intentional?

Simple really. I have wrote about it before but here goes again in a condensed version... with some added steps.

1) Get a sheet of paper, on it write out the letter "A".
On the sheet write about how your lifestyle is, list everything about how things aren't going your way, etc. Finances, relationships, the whole sha-bang....

Now that sounds negative but it is positive.

2) Get another sheet of paper and write how you want your life to be like, in the positive as if it has happened, and do it in a sense of you go into COMPLETE detail of your perfect, average, every day life. So it should be based on what you want this day to bring to you in terms of experience.

Don't write out your life script but like a diary of your day, your perfect average day...meaning you would do this daily.

3) Write out goals. But this time, put how long you want, is it doable within a year, how about 3, or is it 5, maybe 10 or even 20 yrs. Write it out. Then prioritize them, and make a plan from it.

Now you have wrote these down, even if you don't look at them, you will start moving toward them.

But it is best to look at them.

Best wishes,

Adil!

By the way, tomorrow, on facebook I will ask you all who read this to actually come to my blog.
http://www.adilsrants.blogspot.com
To check out a video I am putting up :).

How to be the center of attention.... Part 4!

Rightyo!

Today's blog is going to be a little like a Philly cheese steak with the extra's, it's gonna have a little bit of everything on it... Have I ever had a Philly Cheese Steak, well no but I like the saying.

Today I am going to give you some really great info, followed up with a request and finally a big happy smiling portion of a preview of my next post titled, "3 Big Secrets to getting anything you want from life and people." Well okay I couldn't remember the title i had in mind, all I remember it was good content lol.

Okay so onto the last 2 of the 6 ways of being the center of attention.

Let's recap, shall we :-)

Okay so we have covered:

Reducing Your Social Anxiety
Being Self Amused
Smiling
Being interested and interesting

And today we will cover, giving them more value then they had before you joined them and when leaving say goodbye to all and hug them.

So why is giving more value to people important, how does this help you, and what long term benefits come from this?

Well let's have a look at it this way, if the group is having a boring, droll and not so fun conversation, and you enter with this value of giving fun, interesting topics of empowering them and yourself, you have given value.

Now the person who gives value to others is usually seen as the one with highest value, so the people's attention is turned to you. This plays well when you give interest in other people and follow up with interesting topics of conversation (See this is the mashing up of all 6 points here :P)....

How does being seen as the person with highest value help you?

Truly amazingly because when you give value, and people see you as a high value person, they have an instant natural urge to like you, so this helps in you being able to get the information you want later to keep in touch.

Imagine for a moment, two separate scenario's.

Scenario 1: A person you don't know just enters your group/A friend of a friend enters your group discussion. They make everyone laugh and gives everyone a value of making themselves feel great. At the end of the interaction, they turn to you and say,
"hey it was loads of fun, can I take down your number or something so we can keep in touch and do this again?" With a big warm friendly smile on there face..

Scenario 2: Similar situation with the difference of this person is giving no value, has really bad posture, is interrupting someone who is speaking, trying to change the subject and all out being rude. At the end they ask you for your information, with a sort of glum look on there face.

Who are you going to give your information to?

Exactly it's usually scenario person 1.
The reason is because he gave value, and VALUE BUILDS COMFORT AND RAPPORT!

A great long term benefit of giving great value, is you become known as a person who can help people in a particular thing, plus because you were so friendly and fun, people with your details will usually send you messages asking you to come out.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE: Before I got good at meeting people and interacting like it was second nature (I found out later on it was second nature).... I used to be really quiet, and not be able to interact and at age 14+ your focus is mostly on girls, if your a guy... So when I went out with my best friend at the time, DJ and we used to meet all his friends etc, now I had some okay conversations with them, etc.
Wanna guess how many people called me out to hang out with them being the timid guy out the group? Yeah that's right only my friends that truly knew me.

Fast forward to today, without sounding like I am bragging, after understand the rules of how to be the center of attention in a positive way, I now meet people through my friends or randomly and within a few moments, I have made friends with them and they have shared there information with me. I.E. Email addresses/phone numbers, etc.

Now because of giving value, I get phone calls from these people, sometimes before even the friend who introduced us, to meet up. There's also a business aspect of things, you could make connections through business conventions where you meet people whom you might have a product for.

Okay on to the last one today....

When leaving a person or a group give them a hug.

Now there is an importance to why you want to hug, and that is building more comfort with the person. A hug represents being close to someone and is seen as you liking them and them hugging back usually represents them liking you back. This is liking in the sense of they trust you enough for you to touch them.

Again back to the 2 scenario's. Who would you hug, the person who is happy sociable, fun and gives value. Or the person who isn't got much happening?

It's always best to leave with a hug because this also leaves the person with a good last impression of you. People say first impressions are very important, they are. But they seldom talk about the last impression. If you leave a great last impression as well as an okay - great first impression then you have a winning combo to make sure this person, when they share there details with you, is very likely to meet up with you.

Best wishes,

Adil

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How to be the center of attention.... Part 3!

Hey guys,

Okay so far we have covered both:

How to reduce social anxiety AND self-amusement.

Today we're going to be going through the next two points on this post!

Okay so to just to recap the next two are....

Smiling - why its important and how to find your smile....

Be Interesting and Interested - How to be interested and interesting simultaneously and why it's important, etc.

You guys get the gist. Alright so lets get stuck in!

Smiling....

So why is smiling important?

Simple really, because it means, YOU ARE FRIENDLY and not a danger to the person you are speaking to. It also makes you feel great, makes you feel more social as well.

In terms of body language, smiling is perceived as a universal sign of hope, happiness, joy and fun. And if you smile at someone it is usually hard for them not to smile back, unless you caused them some grief or something.

Anyway the way smiling works in your favor in a "Center of attention" moment, is that when you are speaking, if you have this big ol' smile on your face, it is going to be very hard for people not to like you.

Remember about 92% of all communication is non-verbal but is based on body language dominantly followed by vocal tone. So using the smiling tip, you tend to have people just become attracted to this conversation, because as humans we tend to mimic the happiest. So if you smile and are genuinely making people laugh and giggle while adding value, other people will gravitate toward you.

So how do we get our "killer" smile?

Well a little known face about smiling is that it only takes 17 muscles to smile and about 37 to frown. So smile!

You might say, as I did once, "I can't smile I look really bad!"

Well you can change that using a tip I picked up. There are many ways, one of which is pretty rude but it works like a charm, if you want to know what this tip is email me and i will send it you confidentially so I avoid being in trouble.

Okay so here's how you smile greatly,

1) Smile with your eyes. - By using this and smiling so happily, people will say you "light up" and also when smiling with your eyes, its more real and makes you look great as well.

2) Smile with your mouth completely wide and happy. - Don't care what people say, just let that smile go.

Want to know a DIRTY DIRTY SECRET? NO ONE CARES what you actually look like when you smile or if you shower or don't, if you comb your hair or style it. No one actually really overly cares.

Reason is people generally are to self-centered to notice you being out of place.


Now some people say, "I'd rather be interested then interesting because people will like me more".... Let me clear this up for you, this only works 50% of the time which is good but here's the thing, if you are in a group trying to be the center of attention in a good way, here's what you want to do.

Say something interesting, and then be interested to hear people's responses. It's important because if you are just interesting people will look upon you as a, "Know it all" or "A pain in the butt who won't shut up."

Personally I do get told I talk to much, which is true because I am a predominant blue personality type, if you don't know what I mean check through my blog and search "Blue personality type".... Anyway, though I have been known and told I talk to much I have yet to receive a, "You're so irritating when you talk" comment. This is because I have made sure when I speak I am interested in the person and they are interested in me, so when I say something interesting they tend to listen and give there opinions and feedback.

This blends perfectly with self-amusement because when you can be self-amused. you will automatically say something off the cuff and have people respond, usually if you have rapport, which you would have, that's why your in the group. They will respond positively and just smile with you and just follow on.

Okay so I will be back in a few days with another new update on the final 2 parts :). then the big 3 secrets.

Adil

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How to be the center of attention.... Part 2!

Hey all!

First of all, sorry for taking too much time to post this, I've been REALLY busy and have become somewhat of a hermit.... :).

Also thank you to the people who emailed me asking for help, you know who you are. I love it when people ask because it gives me a sense of contribution and its a form of feedback, also thank you for those that commented on my facebook note :).

Okay so lets jump straight into the 2nd way of being the center of attention without being a needy, pain in the butt, small ego'd person....

So we covered Reducing Social Anxiety and now we are moving on to Self-amusement.

Now just a quick note this is just in number form, in reality all these things we are speaking about mash up together.

Okay so straight into number 2) Self Amusement.

So how does being self amused make you the center of attention?
Well if you are there being self amused you naturally draw attention to yourself and this is where confidence comes in. I have been in this position and see other people in the same place, you start doing something you enjoy, others look, without expressing there opinions you take it that they are silently judging you so you stop. Where as in reality I have found people actually enjoy it.

Now it is no secret I can not sing to save my life. But I still go out and I sing something stupidly weird like, "Zero to Hero" from the Disney Hercules movie. I have people look at me and if they've seen it, I ask them to join in and they do. This is down to the expectation of a positive outcome.

At the end of the 6 stages I will reveal to you thee most powerful source there is to being the center of attention and having what you want from it.

So to continue on self amusement. People generally find those who have low social anxiety and self amusement as people they want to be and follow. Or even be around because when you have low S.A. and high levels of self-belief and amusement you let your natural charisma take control and that makes people want to be around you even more.

In all fairness I didn't come up with this thought, I learned it from a guy by the name of Jon and he is a dating master Consultant. This guy is awesome, anyway he said that being self-amused helped him out and he teaches self-amusement and how it helps. He actually originally took the song "A whole new world" and started singing it with his friends on a night out and it had people join in, etc. Anyway Jon does teach a lot of stuff but in a dating point of view on his blog.
Click here to check it out.

How to be self-amused in a group?

Well okay lets throw you into a scenario where you are out with friends, and its a mixed group of friends, boys and girls. They're talking to someone but you want to be noticed by this someone, you become self amused. Like for example, when I went out into the city the other day, I literally just stood in one spot for 3 minutes wholly all on my own, I called some random woman and just pointed out what I was looking at and asked her something stupid like, "Doesn't that look like, xyz?"

Got a conversation going, next thing I know me and her are asking other people and at the end of it we had about 5 people starring exactly where I was originally because I was so self-amused by the thought. By the way in case your wondering we were looking at this Cloud that looked a lot like an Eagle.

So simple steps for becoming self amused:

Step 1) know what makes you laugh. Once you know this see how many other people find it funny, and if they don't. DO NOT change to say, "yeah it isn't that funny after all" because now you are losing congruence with the person/group. So stick to your guns on what makes you laugh.

Step 2) Work on your posture, the importance of posture is paramount because when you speak and something is funny and your very fluid to the body expression of the joke, people often laugh with you. They observe your body movement, if it is very stiff and you are laughing, they think your joke is not funny and if its something about yourself such as,
"I fell up the stairs today" They will think you are B.S'ing them.

Finally Step 3) Go out and start speaking to people, when you do. Make it a game with yourself to make the other person laugh. When you do this, you become the center of attention in their world. Which in turn if you do this with a group of friends, they will look at you, and you have the "floor" to speak and they will listen to you.

Oh and a final side step: DON'T BE BORING! I recently went to a seminar where one of the speakers was tremendously talented with a great range of how he could help you....BUT he was sooo boring, his deliverability was bad a lot of the crowd fell asleep.
And of course don't take anything to seriously because that doesn't come off as fun.

Best wishes,

Adil

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