How to be the center of attention.... Part 4!

Rightyo!

Today's blog is going to be a little like a Philly cheese steak with the extra's, it's gonna have a little bit of everything on it... Have I ever had a Philly Cheese Steak, well no but I like the saying.

Today I am going to give you some really great info, followed up with a request and finally a big happy smiling portion of a preview of my next post titled, "3 Big Secrets to getting anything you want from life and people." Well okay I couldn't remember the title i had in mind, all I remember it was good content lol.

Okay so onto the last 2 of the 6 ways of being the center of attention.

Let's recap, shall we :-)

Okay so we have covered:

Reducing Your Social Anxiety
Being Self Amused
Smiling
Being interested and interesting

And today we will cover, giving them more value then they had before you joined them and when leaving say goodbye to all and hug them.

So why is giving more value to people important, how does this help you, and what long term benefits come from this?

Well let's have a look at it this way, if the group is having a boring, droll and not so fun conversation, and you enter with this value of giving fun, interesting topics of empowering them and yourself, you have given value.

Now the person who gives value to others is usually seen as the one with highest value, so the people's attention is turned to you. This plays well when you give interest in other people and follow up with interesting topics of conversation (See this is the mashing up of all 6 points here :P)....

How does being seen as the person with highest value help you?

Truly amazingly because when you give value, and people see you as a high value person, they have an instant natural urge to like you, so this helps in you being able to get the information you want later to keep in touch.

Imagine for a moment, two separate scenario's.

Scenario 1: A person you don't know just enters your group/A friend of a friend enters your group discussion. They make everyone laugh and gives everyone a value of making themselves feel great. At the end of the interaction, they turn to you and say,
"hey it was loads of fun, can I take down your number or something so we can keep in touch and do this again?" With a big warm friendly smile on there face..

Scenario 2: Similar situation with the difference of this person is giving no value, has really bad posture, is interrupting someone who is speaking, trying to change the subject and all out being rude. At the end they ask you for your information, with a sort of glum look on there face.

Who are you going to give your information to?

Exactly it's usually scenario person 1.
The reason is because he gave value, and VALUE BUILDS COMFORT AND RAPPORT!

A great long term benefit of giving great value, is you become known as a person who can help people in a particular thing, plus because you were so friendly and fun, people with your details will usually send you messages asking you to come out.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE: Before I got good at meeting people and interacting like it was second nature (I found out later on it was second nature).... I used to be really quiet, and not be able to interact and at age 14+ your focus is mostly on girls, if your a guy... So when I went out with my best friend at the time, DJ and we used to meet all his friends etc, now I had some okay conversations with them, etc.
Wanna guess how many people called me out to hang out with them being the timid guy out the group? Yeah that's right only my friends that truly knew me.

Fast forward to today, without sounding like I am bragging, after understand the rules of how to be the center of attention in a positive way, I now meet people through my friends or randomly and within a few moments, I have made friends with them and they have shared there information with me. I.E. Email addresses/phone numbers, etc.

Now because of giving value, I get phone calls from these people, sometimes before even the friend who introduced us, to meet up. There's also a business aspect of things, you could make connections through business conventions where you meet people whom you might have a product for.

Okay on to the last one today....

When leaving a person or a group give them a hug.

Now there is an importance to why you want to hug, and that is building more comfort with the person. A hug represents being close to someone and is seen as you liking them and them hugging back usually represents them liking you back. This is liking in the sense of they trust you enough for you to touch them.

Again back to the 2 scenario's. Who would you hug, the person who is happy sociable, fun and gives value. Or the person who isn't got much happening?

It's always best to leave with a hug because this also leaves the person with a good last impression of you. People say first impressions are very important, they are. But they seldom talk about the last impression. If you leave a great last impression as well as an okay - great first impression then you have a winning combo to make sure this person, when they share there details with you, is very likely to meet up with you.

Best wishes,

Adil

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